The Power of a Good Mood


Some of your may have seen this short (16 minute) UTube video on validation.  If you haven’t it is
worth seeing and, if you have, it is worth seeing, again.  www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cbk980jV7Ao
If you can’t watch it all, now, watch a couple of minutes. This has been the first, or second, result every time I have Googled “validation” for three years.

The first time I saw the clip I had just read a news article that cited a study that proved that passing a good mood was as frequent and as powerful as passing on a bad mood.  Now we have all had the experience of someone entering the room with a really bad
mood and attitude just sucking all the joy out of the people in the room.

What great news to know that this works just as strongly with positive energy.  In fact the study showed that coming into contact with a person with positive feelings transferred that emotion to you and that you would pass that emotion on to at least one other person!  Do you see the implication here?

Right, that good feeling keeps on going.  Each contact creates another carrier.  Each carrier will create another carrier.  The change you can set off with a positive contact is amazing.

Look what this guy in the film did.   He shared his good feeling by validating everyone he touched during the day.  I was really impressed by this.  I have been trying to do it on a regular basis. I am not quite at one a day yet, but it’s always a few times a week and sometimes a few of times a day.  As a rule I make many contacts a day and I am one of the happiest people I know, so
I do make incidental contacts that are positive all day, so I am passing the positive those feelings forward.

When I remember to validate, or find something to validate, the effect is far beyond the ordinary positive contact.  It is truly amazing.  People just light up!  It is so much fun!

I watched the desk clerk in a small town in Colorado greet every single guest that came in the door for the complimentary breakfast with a hello and a great smile.  He was already spreading a little joy.  On my way out I stopped at the desk and said, “You are the perfect person for this job.  You have not only smiled at everyone who has come in the door, but you have smiled like you really meant it.  It has really been a pleasure to watch you.”  Well he just turned the wattage on the smile up and he seemed about 3 inches taller when I walked away taking the good mood he was sharing with me.

TOGETHER, WE MAKE WORK JOYFUL


My first version of my vision did not have the word “together” in it. I later realized that that was not only egotistical, but foolish. No one can make someone else’s work joyful, or even horrible, for them.  It takes a team.
The team may be myself and one person to bring them joy in their job or their micro-business, or it can be myself, a team and several hundred people in a larger business. I think that is the most important thing I can be doing with my energy and skills at this time. I want to make the world a better place for everyone. This is how we can do it.
If you have a great day at work, you head home cheerful and fulfilled. You greet your spouse warmly, play with the dog, and spend some quality time with the children. You may even go out that evening and be particularly pleasant to your waiter, make the lady at the grocery checkout smile and compliment you neighbor on their beautiful blooming roses. Everyone you have touched will pass the feeling you gave them on to at least one other person.
When you have a bad day, if you are accustomed to good days you may shrug it of, but you won’t be your special joyful self. If it is just another bad day in a bouquet of bad days, you are going to head home with your head and your spirits down. At best, your spouse gets a neutral greeting, at worst; you snarl and set the tone for a bad evening. The dog looks at you, lowers its ears, and heads into another room. The children are just too noisy and you yell for quiet. If the neighborhood is lucky, you stay home tonight. If not you go out and share your misery and those that you share it with share their reaction to you with at least one other person.
This is not a positive thinking process, nor am I going to tell you that thinking positively will change anything. It can change how you react to things. I create the joyful work situation by changes, sometimes radical, sometimes, fine tuning, in the three main areas that affect your work. Your personal input as an owner, manager, partner, or employee is the first. The second is the culture of the workplace. The third is the playing field. For work to be joyful all three of these must be in alignment and moving together toward specific goals.
Next blog I will write a little about that positive effect we can have on people.