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I have written about a plan for creating a support structure for alternative healers. As I have begun work on this project one mentor and I have injected a consideration into my planning. The project is too big and I will never finish it.
The mentor estimated 8 years to get it off the ground. That estimate was based on the breadth of the final support structure. I immediately thought he was right. I began to follow his suggestion to cut the plan back to just one single piece of the structure I envisioned.
Then I began to question why I had so easily agreed with his advice. The need is for the entire structure. The plan for the entire structure is practical. Eight years is not that long a time. The project can deliver great benefits to the clients, to the practitioners and to me. So, why did I consider abandoning my dream so quickly?
I forgot one of the very basic principles in my personal philosophy. I stepped completely out of the “Now”. I began to live and worry in the future. I introduced fear into the plan. The thing pushed me into the future and fear was my age. Will I live long enough to do it?
Why did I make that such a big consideration? I had already planned to develop the system and train my replacement at the same time. I knew that it was not practical to build the entire structure at once. I think what happened was I let some very good advice knock me off balance.
I attend an Eckhart Tolle discussion group. A recent topic was how difficult it is to remain focused on the “Now” when we are troubled. One of the thoughts that evolved was “this is when the focus is the most valuable.” This is true. The “Now” is not a place to hide from the future, or run from the past. It is the time to be and to act.
Our present action does create the future. One of the considerations in our choice of action can be how to create so that our absence will not end our creation. One of Tolle’s primary teachings is that focus on the future as the point of our happiness creates fear. The simple possibility of our absence from that future should not be the fear that prevents action now.
I had a similar dilemma a few years ago. I really wanted a motorcycle. I had ridden for years then sold my last bike. I kept thinking that I wanted to ride again. Then I would tell myself, I was too old to ride. One day I asked myself, “How much younger do you need to be to start riding, again?” Two weeks after that I bought the motorcycle. I had five good years of riding after that.
I am going to start creating my dream, now.
50% OF YOUR MEMORIES ARE FALSE – FORGET OUR GRUDGES
I have read in several different books and articles that 50% of what we remember is false. Of course, we remember big the big events accurately, right? Wrong.
In one study researchers interviewed people within week of the 9/11 attack. That was a major event. The researchers waited 10 years. They interviewed the same people, again. Only 50% of the subjects’ current memories of the event matched their initial memory.
Do I hear a “so what
Well, like most of us, I have some bad memories. Two of them have bothered me off and on for years. This thought occurred to me. “What if my memory of those events is wrong? How can I continue to invest this emotion in something that may not have happened? What if the event was entirely different than I remember it?” Since then these memories have not returned.
Why did they not return? We tend to remember things better, if there is emotion attached. If the emotion detaches from the memory, we are less likely to remember it.
Well, before this I had read that it is hard to change your mind. You have to make a real effort to accept and evaluate new information. Just accepting new information can be difficult. I find that when I am offered the opportunity to read an opposing view I get very, very tired! Really!
If I wade through this feeling, I can at least take in new information. I can evaluate that information and my old information. I need to have enough objectivity to compare my evaluations. The comparison will determine whether the old or the new belief is most likely to be true.
Why is that? When I believe something that is false I want to continue to believe it. If you, or experience, or whatever convinces me that something else is true, I will change my mind. Very shortly after I change my mind I will not believe I ever held the false belief. (Now my new belief can be false. To me at this time it is my true belief.) I will know that I have always held the new belief!
Your mind may be playing games with you. I may be making you miserable with the pain and anger of old memories. It may be lying to you. At least, it may be presenting you will false information. Realize there is a 50/50 chance that it is false, or inaccurate. Walk away from it.
We will provide the individual with a business support structure. The healer can focus on client care.
Each healer will market for all group members.
We will lead based on two concepts. The concepts are chaos theory and the union of information and energy.
The evolution of this vision:
A few of us are still old enough to remember a family doctor. For the most part the family doctor was a solo practitioner. I remember two of them. Our first doctor had his office in a one bedroom apartment. The next had a two room facility above the local movie theatre. These doctors were heroes to my parents. I wonder how we survived them.
They were probably good doctors for their time. Their time was long ago. Two and three room facilities restricted them to examining one patient at a time. In one way, this probably made them more effective. They spent more face to face time with each patient. In other ways it restricted their practice.
They were on their own for medical support. These doctors were general practitioners for real. They did their own examinations. They did some of their own lab work. They read their own x-rays. They did their own minor surgery, on site. They were not good at everything they did. The whole of their practice was both greater and less than the sum of its parts. They did care for the whole patient.
As time went by the single doctor business model became less and less practical. Doctors didn’t advertise. Recruiting patients was limited to a listing in the phone book. Referrals from patients, endorsements by their churches and civic groups, and face to face personal contact brought them new customers. The doctors essentially waited for patients to come to them. Waiting for patients to find you does not work well.
The health providers that did advertise were clinics, hospitals, and health management organizations. These entities competed for long term relationships with patients. They won both the loyalty and the hatred of many patients. There were tremendous advantages to their access to on site labs, imaging, specialties and surgical specialties. They had major downsides in client service. They struggled to find a balance between efficiency and doctor/patient relationships. They were challenged in all forms of customer service. In some locations those issues are still only partially resolved. In some they are spectacularly resolved.
I know that the time has come for more alternative healers to imitate some of this change. I have some ideas of my own. If you are a health care provider, I would really like to hear your thoughts on the support you need. I am particularly interested in the two things. What do you think would both increase your practice? What would allow you to focus more on healing?
I want to be smarter, calmer, happier, stronger, addiction free, alive longer, more in the now, avoid anxiety and depression and many more good things. I know one of the simplest and most effective steps toward all of these good things is exercise. Do I exercise? Well, yes and no.
I do exercise. I get a real boost in the stronger, calmer, and smarter areas. I am not getting the boost I should get, nor am I getting much of a boost in the other areas. Well, why not? Because I don’t get it and I don’t execute what I do get.
I am fairly regular at the gym. I make it there two to five times a week. The average is more three than four. That’s not where is should be. I need to be exercising an average of six times a week. I am also not getting the concept of balanced exercise. I like to lift weights. It’s what I do. I have pretty good success and progress with it. I am getting results with it.
What I don’t get are two key elements. My average of 3 plus is good. It is definitely better than nothing, but it is not good enough. The weights are not the whole game. They are important, but do not give me the range of results I want and need.
So what is changing my mind? I just finished reading Spark: the revolutionary new science of exercise and the brain by John J. Ratey. The book is filled with solid, scientific explanations of exactly what contributions exercise makes to our bodies and our brains. The book also covers how much and what kind of exercise has the best effects on our human package. So, hard as it is for me to admit I am wrong. I am wrong.
Now, I get it. Today, I am starting an aerobic element in my exercise. I am short on time so, I am going to introduce a “sprint and rest” aerobic pattern. I will make a maximum effort for 30 seconds. I will drop down to rest for a few minutes. I will hit the sprint effort, again. That pattern will let me get a solid aerobic burst in about 10 minutes.
I have recently lost 10 of the 14 lbs a personal trainer recommended I shed. I don’t expect to lose more. I have shifted my weight training from high reps low weight to high weight low reps. I have started adding muscle mass.
So, why am I telling you this? Well, I was going to write a blog about how great exercise is for so many things. I was going to encourage everyone to exercise more. I decided that instead of pushing exercise, I would lead by example.
I get it. It doesn’t work unless I do it. Check back here in month or call or email me, to see what it’s doing for me. We can talk about what it could do for you.
Positive thinkers do not bounce back from adversity very well. The people who recover quickly, bounce back, and move on are accurate thinkers.
Look what positive thinking can do to you when adversity strikes. If you make the effort to think positive, you will have to deny at least a little reality. Maybe you will have to ignore whole huge chunks of it. What will happen, if you ignore the adversity? You are not very likely to do anything about it, or even plan to do anything about it. You are very likely to allow the adversity to grow.
When a negative event strikes your life it is what it is. Surrounding it with lovely thoughts and affirmations has little power to make the event what you wish it was. Those lovely thoughts and affirmations have even less power to make the results of the event good for you. At best positive thoughts will create the illusion of a bad thing becoming a good thing.
Negative thinking considers primarily the downside of an event, proposition, offer, plan, accident, etc. It encircles hope and squelches it. Accurate thinking looks at a setback in detail. It examines the event. It breaks it down to its individual parts. It looks at the worst, best and most likely outcomes of the event. It examines the event for causes and causes that may cause a repeat of this event, or set off other events
Accurate thinking lays the foundation by knowing the situation. With it you add your knowledge of yourself to the picture. It shows you your objectives. It gives you a correct and detailed inventory of your resources. It helps you plan for both the worst and best outcomes. At the same time accurate thinking lets you put your main energy into avoiding, or minimizing, the effects of the most likely outcomes.
Accurate thinking is the beginning of a solution to the adverse event. aaccurate thinking drives resilence. Sure, there are almost overwhelming events and events that you cannot prevent. The definition of an adversity is that it has already happened. The adversity is often a fact of life. My programmer/systems analysis job went sailing off to India a few years, ago. There was nothing I could do to stop it from sailing, or bring it back.
What I could do was readjust my spending, look for other jobs and consider self employment. I did these things and I now have my own business.